How to Use Anal Beads: A Short Guide
Anal beads are a popular sex toy that belong to the butt plug family. We talked generally about anal beads in our beginner’s guide, but there was one area that wasn’t really covered: How to use them. So if you’ve picked up a set, or were thinking about it, but weren’t sure what to actually do with them then read on as we dive into how to use anal beads.
What Are Anal Beads Used For?
Anal beads are most often, unsurprisingly, used anally. Each set will usually be made up of several beads that grow in size, with the largest being closest to the handle, base, or pull ring. You can insert them as far as you like, so the growing sizes means you can easily just go as far as you’re comfortable with.
The main reason people use anal beads is the sensation they give as they are inserted or removed. The anal sphincter and surrounding area is filled with sensitive nerve endings. As the beads enter or exit your body, the sphincter is stretched and then released, stimulating these nerve endings.
As this is the most common pleasurable use of anal beads, it’s important to make sure you pick up a high quality set. Some are joined by nylon or cotton strings rather than actual rubber or silicone. You want to avoid this type, as the constant pulling on the strings can weaken and even break them, leaving you with some individual balls stuck in your butt.
How to Insert Anal Beads?
If you’ve ever read any guide on how to put something in your butt, you’ll already have an idea of some or even all of this stuff. But it’s always worth going over as people often treat the anus just like the vagina and start shoving things in there with very little thought. This is a sure fire way to cause yourself some real damage, so it’s important to take proper care when engaging in any kind of anal play.
Now before you go throwing the beads into your body, there’s a super important thing that you ALWAYS need to do for anal play. Lubricate! The anus does not self lubricate like the vagina, so putting things in there dry will be like pushing sandpaper up there. Not very pleasant!
There are a few different options when it comes to lubrication, mainly coming down to which type you decide to use. The three main types are silicone-based, oil-based, and water-based. These each have their own benefits and drawbacks, so you should spend some time making sure you know exactly what you’re putting into your body before you start.
Silicone-based lubricants are often viewed as the most luxurious of the choices. It tends to feel silky and smooth to the touch, and lasts a lot longer than some of the cheaper water based lubes. The main problem with silicone-based lubes is that they cannot be used with beads made from silicone, as they will break down the surface of the balls leading to debris and bacteria in both your butt and your balls.
Oil-based lubricants are usually the middle ground. They don’t feel quite as nice as silicone lubes, but they still last quite a long time, meaning less reapplication. These are safe to use with any type of anal bead, so as long as they are body safe you’re good to go. The one downside to oil-based lubes is that they cannot be used with condoms, so bear that in mind if you’re planning on wrapping your beads.
Water-based lubes tend to be the cheapest of the options. They don’t last quite as long but in general will be the safest and simplest of the three. Any type of anal bead is safe with water-based lube, and condoms are perfectly fine too. Your main problem with water-based lubricants is the ingredients used in them, and in particular glycerine. Glycerine can act as a laxative on your anal tissue, so it’s often best during anal play to find lube that doesn’t contain it.
In general, Oil-based lubricants tend to be a lot of people’s go to choice for anal play. Each type has it’s own merits though, so don’t be afraid to try them all out and see what works for you.
With your chosen lube handy, you’re going to want to get your beads literally covered in the stuff. Make sure it gets into all the nooks and crannies. You don’t want to get them halfway in and have one random dry bead that completely ruins the experience for you. Seriously use loads of the stuff, you won’t regret it.
You also want to get a good coating of lube around your anus, and inside the sphincter true. Getting it actually inside your butt can be somewhat difficult at times. If you find yourself struggling with this you could look at picking up a lube syringe, which lets you “shoot” the lube into your anus.
Time to Put them In
Onto the exciting part: insertion. You might be quite excited by this point, but the most important thing with any anal activity is to be nice and relaxed. Put on some music or light some candles if that’s your kind of thing. Whatever you need to do to put yourself in a zen place go ahead and do it, as being too tense will not only make actually inserting your beads more difficult, it’ll probably make it much less enjoyable.
Now I don’t know about you, but when I’m planning to put something into my butt, it’s not a scientific experiment. By all means if you just want to take cold hard notes on the feelings, then go right at it. Most people though will be doing this as part of a sexual experience, so you’re gonna want to be turned on!
You can do this however you want, but it’s worth bearing in mind that it can difficult to actually stay aroused once you get started with the butt stuff. It’ll definitely get easier over time, but for the first few attempts you might want to have some porn on in the background, or use other things like a vibrator, cock ring, or even have a partner keeping you going while you get used to anal play.
So with lube and arousal out of the way, you’re free to get down to it. You’ll want to start with the smallest bead, and gently push them in one at a time. You don’t have to take the whole lot in one session, so just go as far as you feel comfortable with. Pay attention to your body, and properly experience the feelings of each bead passing inside you. Sometimes you might notice a kind of pop as your sphincter closes around a bead before opening back up for the next one.
At any point in the process, if you begin to feel pain, STOP. These muscles aren’t really used for anything outside the toilet, so it can take a long time for them to get used to a different use. Small amounts of pain could be just caused by a lack of lube, so you can put some more on and try again. With larger or consistent pain though, you may have touched something you didn’t mean to, or pushed a little too far. Stop for this session and if pain hasn’t subsided after a few days head to the doctors and get checked out.
What to do Once You’ve Inserted Them?
Once you’ve managed to get the beads into your anus, take a little time to get used to the feelings. It can be a little challenging to move around while wearing them at first, so experiment with your range of movement and what is comfortable to you. When you feel ready, the world is your oyster!
You can do basically anything while wearing anal beads, from regular penile sex to any other sexual activity you might fancy. Some people even like to sneak out of the house and wear them while they shop. The feelings you have will be totally personal to you, so you’ll need to do a bit of experimenting to see what you enjoy.
Keeping your beads in for a longer session will usually require some re lubrication throughout as your butt will start to dry out a little more. It’s generally recommended to keep them in no more than three hours, and definitely don’t fall asleep with them in.
Taking Them Out
Removing the beads is the part that many people look forward to the most. You can remove them whenever you want to stimulate your anal nerves. However if you can time this right around the time you orgasm, you can produce some very intense feelings.
You might be tempted to quickly pull all of the balls out at once. Doing this probably isn’t going to feel too great though, and could lead to some damage to your rectal muscles. It also risks causing your butt to release some fecal matter due to the speed of removal.
A much more pleasurable way to remove the beads is one at a time. Start slowly, and you can increase the speed if you feel more comfortable. As each bead comes out of your sphincter you’ll experience a similar popping sensation as inserting them. You can even experiment with pulling some out and then putting some back in, so you aren’t fully removing the beads but still experiencing the different sensations.
While most of the usage of anal beads is fairly self explanatory, there are a couple of extra techniques I’ve come across that some of you might really enjoy.
The first is experimenting with the use of temperature. Anal beads can be heated or cooled to varying degrees of temperature. Obviously you should take it slow and not insert boiling metal into your body, but a little cold or hot feeling could give you a completely different experience when using your beads.
The second technique is a little more active. Rather than simply pulling the beads back out to stimulate the muscles, clench you pelvic floor and try to hold them in as you pull. See just how hard you can pull before your muscles can’t hold on any longer and when the beads do come out, you’ll experience a kind of release as well as the usual feelings.
Precautions While Using Anal Beads
As with almost any type of anal play, there are a few things you need to look out for to stay completely safe. You need to make sure that your beads have an appropriate base or bottom handle to make sure that they don’t get stuck inside your butt. Beads with string connecting them are also a big risk, as the string can snap leaving individual beads inside you. String is also impossible to keep properly clean so you always run the risk of bacteria getting stuck in it.
Cleanliness is also very important. If you have any worries about touching fecal matter while using your anal beads, you can use gloves and condoms to protect your hands and beads. You should ALWAYS use a condom if you plan to share the beads, and swap to a fresh condom between partners, but it is recommended to have separate sets of anal beads for each person.
To make sure you’re getting the best kinds of anal beads to stay safe, head over to our guide to choosing anal beads for more info.
Hopefully you now have a better idea of how to use anal beads. So if you haven’t grabbed any yet, what are you waiting for? Get hold of some and enjoy some truly unique sexual pleasure today!