Anal Masturbation: Finger Yourself the Right Way!

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Anal play is becoming more popular than ever! Much of the social stigma usually associated with it has evaporated, and people nowadays are adventurous enough to try anal masturbation and explore the many delightful surprises through their backdoor!

Anal masturbation, simply put, is stimulating the inside and outside of your tushie by yourself.

We're all usually delighted to play with our other sexual regions, but when it comes to butt, some people just don't bother.

These people don't know they're missing out on a lot! Not only can anal masturbation be something great to explore on your own, but it can also be a great way to figure out what you like and dislike about anal stimulation.

Love Masturbation? Try Anal!

If you love masturbation but haven't tried any kind of ass play, then we definitely recommend you give it a try. But why?

Well, the anus has one of the highest concentrations of nerve endings found in your entire body! Every little touch stimulates many of these nerves, leading to some incredibly intense and delightful sensations.

It’s also just plain dirty. Despite society's modern, progressive attitudes, anal sex is still just that little bit taboo. Many, many people love exploring these taboos, and knowing they're doing something out of the ordinary can heighten their excitement!

Or perhaps you're someone who already enjoys anal sex. What could anal masturbation possibly offer that sex doesn't?

Well, taking the time to explore your own nether regions can let you find all the sweet spots that feel extra nice to stimulate. You will be able to guide your partner better when they have anal sex with you, or even learn some new tricks you might want to try out!

To put it simply, there are loads of reasons to try anal masturbation!

Penetration: Do I Have to Finger My Ass?

When you're interested in anal masturbation, and you've never done it before, you're naturally going to have a lot of questions and concerns. One frequently asked question is: "Do I actually need to put something up my butt?"

While penetration will be the end goal for most people doing it, we know that it isn't for everyone.

Luckily, there is still plenty of anal fun you can have without putting anything inside at all! A research study shows that a good percentage of female subjects find anal surfacing (sexual touch by a finger, penis, or sex toy on and around the anus) to be pleasurable. 

The nerve endings that make anal stimulation feel so good aren't just found inside your body. There are plenty around your anus and butt cheeks just waiting to be stimulated. You can gently stroke your bud with your fingers or place a vibrator on it. Just make sure not to insert any object or toy not intended for internal anal stimulation. And if you're thrilled to know what ass toys are safe for anal exploration, keep reading!

Sex Toys for Anal Masturbation

If you've spent any time browsing sex toy sites, you should probably know by now that thousands of different toys are out there. While they can't all be used for butt play, you can use a vast majority of them!

Some of our favorite toys for anal masturbation sessions are:

Butt Plugs

Butt plugs will usually be the first kind of anal toy you'll think about. After all, they have butt in the name!

These small plugs are inserted into the anus and left plugged to caress the insides of your tush. As you move around, the plug will shift slightly, stimulating the nerve endings in your butt.

The other great thing about butt plugs is that they're completely passive! You can just pop them in and leave them while you continue playing with other parts of your body that you want. Or if you want to be as un-involved as possible, just sit back and enjoy the sensations!

Some of our favorite butt plugs for anal masturbation are:

Anal Beads

These are small beads joined together by a string or silicone. Again, these are primarily designed for butt play.

Rather than holding them in place, anal beads are meant to be inserted and removed, much like a penis or a dildo. However, their shape changes the sensation completely.

As each bead enters your body, you'll feel your sphincter being pushed open and closed back up again. Then the next bead starts to enter, and the process repeats.

The constant opening and closing of the sphincter muscle can feel fantastic. Some describe it as a popping sensation. For the ultimate anal bead pleasure, try removing them one by one just as you reach orgasm.

Here's one of our favorite anal beads for anal masturbation:

Anal Vibrators

Vibrators are a fantastic toy for anal masturbation, as you can pop them in, turn them on, and relax. Being able to sit back and not needing to do anything can give you time to adjust properly and get used to the sensations, especially as a beginner.

Once you feel more comfortable, moving onto a larger toy isn't necessary. Simply turn the speed up or change the frequency!

While some vibrators are marketed more specifically as "anal vibrators," in reality, you can use any vibrator for anal masturbation. Just be sure it has a flanged or T-bar base that will stop it from getting sucked inside. Keep also in mind that what goes in your bum should never travel to your vagina.

Some of our favorite anal vibrators for anal masturbation are:

Prostate Massagers

An honorable mention should go to prostate massagers. While basically a cross between a butt plug and a vibrator, these devices are specifically designed to hit a man's prostate gland.

Stimulating this gland can be the pinnacle of anal pleasure for men, but we'll cover that more later...

Some of our favorite prostate massagers for anal masturbation are:

Solo Anal? Or Mutual Masturbation?

One of the first things you'll need to decide is whether you'll want to masturbate alone or let your partner in for more fun.

If it's your first time masturbating anally, you'll likely want to try it alone. After all, you'll probably be a little nervous and concerned only about yourself, and a partner won't make things a little less stressful for you.

Trying solo anal masturbation also allows you to be both the giver and the receiver, which means you'll have more control over the situation. You can properly explore your body and find all the areas that you enjoy stimulating.

Once you've gained a little more experience under your belt, you can try anal masturbation with a partner. You'll be able to guide them, given your experience, and let them know if they're being too rough or too gentle and not hitting the right spot!

Solo Anal Masturbation: Tips and Positions

Whether alone or with a partner, it is important to set the mood when you wish to try anal masturbation. Play soft music, light candles, and, most importantly, get that lube ready.

After all, this is all part of the sexual experience, and you need to treat it as such. Don't just jump right into any sexual activity that has to do with the anus because the anal area requires lube since it can't create that love juice that a vagina produces.

With genital masturbation, getting into a comfortable position can be done effortlessly. Stimulating your own butt may need a bit of flexibility, but one of the easiest positions for newbies is to lie on your back with your legs spread wide and your knees bent. At first, you may even need a mirror to find the anus, but that is certainly easy to do.

After you've found the right spot, place some lube on your fingers and start exploring. If you'd like to start with rubbing and touching only, you can do so. When you feel ready for penetration, gently rest your finger pad on your anus and push like a doorbell. If you've used enough lube, it should just slide right in.

There's no need to go any further than this for a while; instead, sit and get used to the feelings and sensations. When you feel ready, you can put the finger in a bit deeper, then try two fingers, and if you're really in the mood, move on to a sex toy!

Stimulating your penis or vagina can also help get you in the mood. Often anal masturbation might just seem a bit weird or uncomfortable. Pairing the two up can help you move past this and enjoy what you feel rather than just noticing it.

Female Anal Masturbation

For women, the main enjoyment of anal masturbation comes from all the nerve endings inside the butt. These can be stimulated in any way you want, so take your time and figure out what works best for you.

However, anal nerves aren't the only things going on!

Many people believe a woman's clitoris goes deeper into the body, like an iceberg. Some of the inner parts of the clitoris are near the anal canal, and stimulating your anus can actually stimulate the clitoris.

This internal part of the clitoris is also much larger than the small external part, so you can experience more intense and enjoyable sensations.

You can also pair your anal masturbation with some traditional vaginal masturbation. When you insert objects into your anus, they obviously take up space inside your body. In doing so, these things push against the back of the vagina and can make it feel much tighter!

Combining some anal play with a dildo or vibrator can help women reach new heights of sexual pleasure they didn't even know were possible!

Male Anal Masturbation

Even some straight men enjoy a little anal masturbation now and again, and one of the reasons why it's so pleasurable to men is because of the prostate, which is a walnut-shaped gland that you can easily feel if you place your fingers in the rectum.

In fact, you don't have to explore long before you find this gem. For most men, it's located 2-3 inches in, just below the bladder.

When you massage the gland, it produces awesome sensations that you won't feel with other sex acts. Once you've experienced prostate orgasm, you'll be hooked on it!

You also don't need to massage the gland very hard to produce fantastic results. If you grab your penis with one hand and stimulate the anus with the other hand, you can experience some of the most intense orgasms you've ever had!

One concern that many men have is explaining to their partners that they enjoy this type of masturbation, especially if they aren't gay.

By the way, there's nothing wrong with being gay, and there's nothing wrong with anal indulgence, regardless of your sexual orientation, either. You are entitled to do something that makes you feel good, and this includes anal masturbation.

Anal Masturbation With a Partner: How To

Anal masturbation is a lot of fun when you have a partner because you'll be stimulated in more ways than one, and you'll therefore have multiple paths to ecstasy.

The best way to encourage a partner to join you is to have that person stimulate either your genitals or your anal area while you stimulate the other.

You can get into a variety of positions, but if you lie down on the bed with your knees bent and your legs spread wide, it will be easier for your partner to face you and sit or squat close to your genitals.

Keep communicating throughout, and let them know what feels good. There's no right or wrong way to enjoy it, so explore together and figure out what you like!

Anal Masturbation With a Partner: Tips and Positions

When it comes to partnered anal masturbation, much of the same advice applies. You'll still want to take the time to relax, get yourself comfortable, and use plenty of lube.

Experimenting with different positions can make a huge difference, as you'll often find that some are much easier to use your hands than others.

You have a lot of options once you get into the right position; for instance, you can stimulate one area while your partner stimulates the other area, or you can each stimulate yourself while the other does himself or herself.

If you're a little worried about bringing your partner into your anal masturbation session, you might want to establish a safe word beforehand. If either partner says the safe word, the anal play stops immediately. Having this in place can help reassure nervous partners that nothing that they don't enjoy will happen.

Try It Yourself Today!

Anal masturbation doesn't need to be scary! There is literally body-shaking amounts of pleasure to relish from anal stimulation done the right way, and what better way than by doing it yourself?

So if you've ever thought it might be something you enjoy, we encourage you to try it. Before you know it, you might be the proud owner of some of our amazing anal toys, which help you reach orgasmic heights you didn't know were possible!

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