Feel the chill or turn up the heat by exploring temperature play! This unique kink can introduce you to a whole new range of sexual sensations, and can even incorporate your favourite sex toys!
What Is Temperature Play?
Temperature play is one of the many different BDSM kinks that couple’s like to explore to make their sex lives that little bit kinkier.
It’s a simple concept. Take something hot or cold. Apply to the many sensitive areas of the body. Enjoy!
While it can sound a little far out and dangerous at first, it’s really not as bad as you think. For most people, temperature play will simply involve ice, cold water, or candles. What Does Temperature Play Feel Like? Good!
Okay, we’re being fairly general here, but it really is that simple. Just like almost anything sexual you hear or read about, if temperature play didn’t feel nice then people wouldn’t do it. (Okay, some people would still do it…)
Real talk though. Our body is covered in nerve endings. They let us feel things. You can feel heat or cold as you’re going about your normal day.
When we start exploring temperature play, we stimulate these nerve endings. Generally, the more we can stimulate, the better it will feel. And our sexual regions are some of the most densely packed regions of the body.
On top of this, when we know something is going to happen, our body tends to go on “high alert”. It expects some kind of stimulation, so when that hot or cold feeling finally comes, you feel a rush of endorphins!
How To Do It
We don’t really need to get too complicated here. For cold temperatures or “ice play”, you literally just ended to rub some ice on your partner’s body. Similarly, for warm temperatures (often called “wax play”), you just need to drip candle wax on them.
It’s much more important how you do these things. Creating some suspense by touching different parts of the body. Rapidly swapping between warm and cool sensations. Moving from “less sexy” areas and getting closer and closer to “more sexy” areas.
Basically, foreplay. With ice!
Take time to explore the different areas of the body and find out what feels nice. If you’re doing it to your partner, you’ll easily be able to see what has the most impact.
The Best Butt Plugs for Temperature Play
Using hot and cold objects is only one way to explore temperature play. You can also take advantage of your favourite sex toys! By heating and cooling butt plugs, you can enjoy entirely different sensations when wearing your favourite plugs.
Let’s take a look at some of our favourite butt plugs perfect for temperature play!
Gunmetal Jeweled Princess Plug 3 Piece Set
The natural choice for any kind of temperature play is a metal plug. Our favourites are this stunning set of Gunmetal Jeweled Plugs. They’re great to look at, both before and after you insert them, and will hold temperature better than any other kind of butt plug!
Yellow Glass Butt Plug
Often overlooked, glass plugs are also great for temperature play. Our Yellow Glass Plug is decorated with plenty of raised bumps, adding plenty of different sensations while you experiment with different temperatures.
Beaded Purple Heart Plug
While glass and metal are much more common, you can still take advantage of silicone and TPE products when you explore temperature play! We love this set of Purple Heart Anal Beads thanks to the unique sensation they provide. Cool them down and pull them out slowly for a complete sensory overload.
Whether you’re planning on heating up, or cooling off, there’s a few things you should keep in mind to make sure you don’t hurt yourself.
First, avoid extremely high or extremely low temperatures.
Most of the areas you’re going to want to explore are very sensitive. This means you’re much more likely to hurt yourself if you’re going for extreme temperatures.
Heat your sex toys gradually.
If you do want to use a butt plug to explore temperature play, then don’t just shove it in the freezer overnight and expect it to be useable. You should warm or cool your plug for around 15 minutes at a time, then see how it feels. If you need to, pop it back in for another 15 minutes, but most of the time it will already be the right temperature to use.
Test things first!
Whether it’s an ice cube, candle wax, or your favourite butt plug, make sure to test it! Try it out on the inside of your wrist or thigh and make sure it’s a comfortable temperature before you start exploring your more sensitive areas.
Extreme Temperature Play
While most of us will be perfectly happy exploring with basic hot and cold sensations, there are always people who like to take things further.
We’re talking mainly about fire play here. This is where you make use of actual live flames to explore the sensation on your skin.
We’re not going to go into too much detail, as this is quite a dangerous practise. Everyone who does it is properly trained, and takes great care to make sure everything is safe. If you’re interested, check out Fire Drumming vids on youtube. Now imagine that on your body. Pretty intense, huh?
Just don’t try this stuff at home on a whim!
Other Sensory Play
While temperature play alone can provide plenty of unforgettable nights, there’s always more to explore when it comes to sex!
There are many different kinds of sensation play that can intensify or change your experience in the bedroom. A lot of these can also be combined with temperature play, or just enjoyed on their own!
The most common form of sensation play is simply using a blindfold. By depriving your partner of their vision, they’ll be left at your mercy. There’s nothing quite as thrilling as the surprise when you don’t know what’s coming next!
You can also explore the many other senses of the body. How about some heated up chocolate to play with heat and taste. Or maybe some chilled chains to tie your lover to the bed.
It’s really all up to you! You can let your imagination run wild, and combine the different senses (or lack of) in any way you see fit.
Just remember, with any BDSM or kink play, remember to keep it SSC. Safe. Sane. Consensual.