How to Prepare for Anal Sex (And What to Do Afterwards)

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Preparations for anal sex should never be ignored and set aside if you want enjoyable, mess-free butt play. If you’ve never tried anal, being mentally, emotionally, and physically ready is even more important than usual. Though Anal can be incredibly satisfying, it can cause discomfort and even pain without preparation.

The good news is that once you learn the basics of how to do anal play, preparing yourself for this intimate act becomes very simple. Investing your time in anal prep brings you one step closer to some mind-blowing sex that can be enjoyed with a partner or even in steamy solo sessions.

Why Should You Prepare for Anal Sex?

One cannot forego preparations for anal fun — they're not an option, but an absolute must. The anus is a very tight opening, and it needs to be loosened up quite a bit before it’s stretched out on some good anal sex.

Contrary to what many believe, there are actually two anal sphincters — internal and external — and they both need to be loosened up before you can perform anal sex. The anus is also relatively tighter than the vagina, so it needs a lot of stretching before penetration.

Because you’ll be inserting a sex toy or a penis into your anus to have sex, the sphincter must be dilated, which you can do in various ways. The most common way is to use a butt plug as their flared shape means the deeper you insert it, the more stretched out the anal muscles will be.

You can do this bit by bit until you feel the muscles relaxed and stretched. The takeaway is to ensure the muscles are loosened before attempting butt sex.

One of the reasons why stretching out the anal muscles is so important is because, without it, you may suffer from an anal tearing or bleeding. There’s no need to be anxious about it, though. You can completely avoid the risk when you prepare your bum for lovemaking.

Even when using a lot of lube, which is also a must with anal sex, you should get your anal muscles loosened up slowly over time. Otherwise, you can tear the anal lining.

How to Prepare for Anal Sex

Preparing for anal sex is a twofold process because you have to be primed for this type of activity both physically and emotionally. Many people, especially women, are repulsed by the thought of having anal sex; if you feel that way, it is best not to give it a try.

Much as with vaginal sex, you have to be aroused to enjoy the experience fully, and you can’t accomplish this if it is something you don’t want to do.

If you want to try anal sex but you’re a little nervous, do not worry. You can get there faster than you think with just a little preparation. The physical preparation centers around getting the anal muscles ready little by little.

It’s best to start by circling the anus with your fingers and when you’re comfortable with that, try something a little bigger but smaller than a dildo — a butt plug, for example.

Butt plugs are great for easing and stretching the anal muscles because they are the perfect size — not too large or small.

Once you’re comfortable having a plug in your bum, your muscles are likely ready for something a little larger, in which case you can move up to a dildo or other toys for pleasure. Full-blown anal sex, as seen in porn, should only be attempted when you're fully comfortable with toys. Many make the mistake of jumping straight into anal sex when It should instead be the very last part of the process.

Another crucial element of anal sex prep is the use of lubricants. In fact, even if you’re used to anal sex, don’t ever skip it. Unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating, so using this slippery goodness is a must.

You can use water-based or silicone-based lube because each has its advantages, though as silicone lube lasts longer, some prefer it as it will need to be re-applied less frequently. If you’re using a sex toy, simply use the type of lube recommended on the packaging. Being psychologically and physically prepared for anal sex may take a lot of work, but it is all worth it.

Ensuring that the muscles are stretched out, that you’re using plenty of lube, and that you really want to be engaged in this type of sexual activity are all crucial. Skip the preparation process, and you'll end up regretting it.

The Anal Diet: Foods You Should Eat

Like any other physical activities, getting ready for bum fun is much easier if you follow a certain diet. After all, you have to be healthy “down there” for it to work right, and since that area of the body is also associated with digestive health, it is good to stick with fiber-rich foods.

Eating foods packed with fiber is perhaps the smartest thing to do because your digestive health and sex life will improve significantly.

Much the same as foods that are good for you, there are also certain foods that you should avoid to maintain excellent digestive health. These foods include red meat and pepper, as well as anything else that might constipate you—being regular means that your colon and anus will remain clean, which goes a long way in helping you better enjoy anal sex.

Finally, drinking a lot of water is very useful because this helps the bowels work correctly and keeps you fit and healthy for anal sex.

Although you may feel the urge to go to the loo while in the middle of intercourse, chances are you won't. The healthier you are, the more quickly that feeling will disappear as the sex act progresses. Anal sex typically gives you that full feeling in the anus, which is much worse if you suffer from poor digestive health.

Fiber and lots of water are the keys to excellent digestive health. Remember that the primary function of your anus is to eliminate poop. Hence, regular bowel movements make you less likely to encounter any mess during butt sex.

Cleaning Your Butt Before Anal Sex

Once again, making sure that your anal area is clean is crucial before getting anally intimate. If you decide to anal douche, this is perhaps the best way to ensure that anything unpleasant in the rectum is flushed out before anal sex.

A standard douche bulb is the cheapest and provides the easiest deep cleansing. You simply fill it up with your choice of douching solution, insert its nozzle tip into the rectum, and squeeze. Repeat until the water starts to run clear.

If using an enema, never add soap or vinegar to the water. You should also stick with the smaller bulb-like enemas because the larger ones are unnecessary for the anal area and may even cause discomfort. Here’s a fast rule when using an enema: Stop immediately once you feel any discomfort or pain.

Again, flushing your rectum isn’t necessary if you have a regular bowel movement. Some need this type of cleansing just to get rid of their anxiety during anal penetration.

Warming Up: Explore Your Butt

Even if you’ve had anal sex many times, you still need to warm up the buttocks area to prepare for the act. Some anal massaging is a perfect exercise to start with because you can use your fingers to do this.

If it makes you feel better, you can use latex or other types of gloves so that your bare finger isn’t inserted into the anus. Starting with a little “finger massage is a great way to prepare for anal sex.

Another great benefit of finger massages is that they allow you to explore your anal area and feel more comfortable about the upcoming sex session.

If you’re lucky to have a generous partner who loves to pamper your bum before he screws it, you’ll find that tossing your salad will get you super turned on. Rimming is very intimate and gloriously titillating!

The next warm-up phase is to use a sex toy or a butt plug in preparation for a P-in-A. Anal beads are also great as they gradually get bigger in size. A male receiver can also indulge in prostate orgasm with a prostate massager.

Keep in mind that you can’t rush the process when making your bum ready to be filled with a penis or a similar-sized object. The rule of thumb is to take things slowly to ensure hassle-free butt play.

Stretching Out: Try a Toy First

Stretching the anal muscles out should be done each time because this is the best way to make sure that butt play is comfortable for you.

Sex toys are great for penetrating the anus because they come in various shapes and sizes. Choose one that is right for you, depending on how loose your anal muscles already are.

Vibrators are great for anal sex as they offer additional stimulation, and can feel great even when gently pressed against the anus as it's packed with sensitive nerve endings.

You can also use handheld egg-shaped devices that vibrate at different speeds. Regardless of which sex toy you use, insert it slowly and carefully and use it in the most comfortable way.

Using your fingers followed by a butt plug will help ease a penile entry, which is why anal sex toys are recommended before participating in the anal sex act.

Lubrication for Anal Sex

Lube is so important during anal sex. You may have to reapply it a few times to make sure everything that goes in and out of your anus slides smoothly.

No matter how turned on and horny you are, your butt doesn’t ooze with love juice as the vagina does. That said, make sure you have a few bottles of lube formulated specifically for this purpose.

There are two main types of lubricants: water-based and silicone-based. Water-based lubes are easier to clean because they wash off easily with water. However, water-based lubes are also absorbed very easily, so you will likely have to reapply as many times as needed during the sex act.

Silicone-based lubes are thicker and have a gel-like consistency, but they are not compatible with toys made of silicone.

Of course, if you’re using toys, it is important to check with the manufacturer to learn which type of lube they recommend. If you’re concerned about the mess that silicone-based lubes make, you can simply place a clean towel on the bed before you start.

Both of these lubricants are very effective at keeping the anus slippery during the sex act, so you’ll just have to decide for yourself which one to use and which one works best for you.

Getting Aroused for Anal

Like vaginal sex, both partners have to be in the mood for anal penetration, especially for females. If you’re going to have anal sex, it is a good idea to prepare for it just as you would any other type of sex.

You can start with a little romantic music, some wine, and maybe even a bubble bath that you can take together. Whatever awakens your desire and stirs your libido, do it. Even though the anus doesn’t get lubricated when you’re aroused, the fact that other parts of your body will become lubricated can help you mentally prepare for it.

What Should You Do After Anal Sex?

Just as with preparing for anal sex, there are some things that you can do afterwards to feel better physically and emotionally. If you’re new to anal sex, you may experience some minor pain and discomfort.

One of the best ways to alleviate that pain is to take a warm bath with Epsom salt. Before you get into the tub, you should wipe yourself with baby wipes so that most of the area can be cleaned before you soak.

It is also important to properly dispose of any condoms, throw all towels into the washing machine, and clean up the bed because it is likely going to be quite dirty at this point.

Wash your sex toys with warm soap and water or a cleanser made specifically for sex toys, and make sure you clean your butt area so that you are comfortable and feel clean.

If foreplay is vital, so is afterplay. Taking a bath together, snuggling, kissing, and touching each other strengthen your bond and make you anticipate your next sesh with great excitement.

Again, anal sex is both a physical and psychological act, so you must be prepared to enjoy both aspects to make the most of it.

Kegels After Anal: Keeping Your Butt Tight

Kegels are generally used to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles so that women can have less incontinence and more enjoyable orgasms, but they do much more than that.

Kegels are also a great way to strengthen the anal muscles so that anal intercourse is much more enjoyable. Kegels are practically effortless, but they work miracles when it comes to strengthening muscles and enabling you to have more satisfying sex.

You can perform Kegel exercises anywhere. Start with a comfortable position and relax. Then, you simply squeeze your muscles as if you're trying to stop urinating mid-flow.

You should tighten the buttock muscles at the same time. Practice this squeeze-and-release motion by holding the squeeze for roughly ten seconds, then releasing it for ten seconds. Start out with one set of ten and build up from there.

How many sets of Kegels you should perform is up to you, but most people find that building up to ten sets of ten reps works best and produces the best results.

In addition, although many people believe that only women should do Kegels, the truth is that if someone with a penis is interested in anal sex, doing Kegels can also increase his enjoyment in the bedroom.

Anal sex is not a spur-of-the-moment thing because it requires physical and mental preparation. By knowing what to do before anal sex, you’ll find it to be so delightful that you’ll get hooked on it. Happy humping!

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