Anal Massage - A Rub Down to Remember

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Whether you're preparing for anal sex or you enjoy some hot butt play, a good anal massage is something you should try. Not only does it help loosen up the muscles for other types of anal activity, but it also relaxes the individual receiving it.

Contrary to what many believe, everyone can enjoy an anal massage, regardless of gender and sexual orientation. It isn't an activity just for a specific group of people.

Anal Massage: What Is it?

The main purpose of an anal massage is to prepare your body for anal sex, but some people use it as foreplay for regular sex as well. Many people are surprised to learn that the anus is filled with a lot of nerve endings, so it can feel sensual getting massaged there.

Using your finger as a start is what most experts recommend because it gives you the freedom to explore the entire anal area, while at the same time it gives you control of what is going to happen next.

An anal massage starts with the right attitude. If your partner asks you to participate in this activity and you have no interest in it, it is best not to do so. All types of anal play require arousal, which can only be accomplished when both partners are interested in and desire it.

Emotional preparation is just as important as physical preparation when it comes to an anal massage, so you have to ensure the activity is something you want to do.

When you start with your finger, you can go as deep as you wish. But gentle strokes on the opening can help you get better used to everything before you move on to the next step.

If you think placing your finger in your rectum can be too messy, try wearing surgical latex gloves. Doing so allows you to explore the anal region without ick, keeping your fingers nice and clean.

An anal massage feels good and can even help people of both sexes reach orgasm. It is also a great way to prepare you for other types of anal sexual activity, including the use of butt plugs, sex toys, and of course, anal sex.

More than anything else, it stretches out the anal muscles so that using anal sex toys or having anal sex afterward is much more comfortable.

Why Should You Give Your Partner a Rectal Massage?

Probably the most obvious reason is anal foreplay. Massaging your partner's rosebud will stimulate their nerve endings, which can be very arousing.

The external anal opening has a high concentration of nerve endings, so it's no surprise if your partner moans with pleasure as you stroke or rub that area.

If you and your partner indulge each other with a sensual massage like this, you'll build more intimacy in your relationship. So you see, we can't think of of any reason why you shouldn't.

Does an Anal Massage Feel Good?

If an anal massage didn't feel good, people would've stopped doing it long ago. People who enjoy a butt massage claim that it feels very sensual and erotic, giving them sensations they weren't even aware existed.

Because anal sex is one of the last taboos, many people feel that anal massages allow them to participate in something once thought of as too risqué or even dirty in years past.

Feeling like a dirty boy or girl in the bedroom can increase your pleasure from that sexual activity, and an anal massage is no different. Of course, all anal activity requires a lot of lube, especially one made specifically for backdoor fun.

For an anal massage to feel good, you have to be prepared for it, and using a lot of lube is always the first step.

The massage involves rubbing and stroking the outside of the anus; sometimes analingus can thrown into the mix. Your fingers can get into the rectum and massage that area. If you stick with the outside area, you should still use lube because it makes stroking and rubbing the area much easier.

Besides, you never know when you might want to insert your finger during the activity, and lube makes it easy to do this.

Both men and women enjoy anal massages, and men enjoy it because you can easily find and massage the prostate gland, which is an area that is similar to a woman's G-spot. In fact, many men will reach orgasm if you rub and massage their P-spot while stimulating their penis simultaneously.

The important thing to remember is that this massage has no hard-and-fast rules. All you have to do is stroke and rub the area in different motions and paces.

Anal Erogenous Zones: Where Should You Massage?

Because the anus is filled with nerve endings, stroking and rubbing the area will produce sensations you are certain to enjoy. You can stroke and rub the outside area or internally as well, depending on what you are most comfortable with.

Start by putting a lot of lube on the tip of your finger and rubbing the area you wish to stimulate or tickle. Depending on your desired stimulation, you can use one, two, or even three fingers.

When you do or have an anal massage, ensure you always have a lot of lube available. If it starts to absorb into the skin or you feel the area getting a little dry, you should quickly reapply the lube so that the activity is easy and the fingers glide smoothly across the anal area.

Try rubbing around the anal area in circular motions, use as much pressure as you like, even working up to more pressure once you get used to it.

If you decide to insert your finger into the anus, try not to go very deep at first. Slowly explore the area completely until you get used to how it is supposed to feel. Once warmed up, you can insert the finger even deeper and try exploring more.

Slow and steady is the way to start, however, because going too fast is likely to be painful and uncomfortable, especially at first.

Make sure that if you're the giver and a man is the receiver, you eventually get to the prostate gland because this will feel amazing to him every time. Stroking and rubbing using the pressure that is most comfortable for the receiver will make them experience mind-blowing anal orgasms.

Anal sex and anal massage are meant to feel good, but if you're new to this type of sexual activity, taking your time is the only way to make sure it feels that good every time you do it.

Hygiene for Anal Massage

Proper hygiene is crucial for any type of anal play because the anus is not meant for sex. Fortunately, these hygiene tips are easy to follow and won't cost much. Observing proper hygiene before and after anal sex play cannot be simply thrown out of the window.

You can start by simply going into the bathroom and emptying your bowels. This will make the anal activity a lot more comfortable from start to finish.

Next, clean the anal area thoroughly, but you can do this with a simple bath or shower. If you want to feel extra clean, you can use a baby wipe afterward. Some people also prefer to use an enema or an anal douche before anal sex, but this is not a requirement for great anal foreplay.

If you do decide to go that route, however, it is recommended that you use the enema or douche one to two hours before you get into the anal action. If you fear getting any sexually transmitted disease, it is always best to use a condom.

Condoms can protect you from STIs and UTIs and keep things less messy once you get going. This is why even couples in committed relationships choose to use condoms for any anal sex play and why condoms are so valuable when participating in this activity.

After the sex act, you may experience some tenderness, tightness, or even pain, and if this happens, you can take a bath with Epsom salt so that the anal area is soothed and refreshed.

Even if there is no discomfort, you should still clean yourself thoroughly by bathing, showering, or wiping yourself with an alcohol-free baby wipe. The anal area must be thoroughly cleaned before and after an anal sexual activity; otherwise, it can cause itching, irritation, or even an infection.

Do You Need Lube for an Anal Massage?

With any anal sexual activity, lots of lube is a must. The anal muscles can tear or even start to swell if very little lube is applied, causing the activity to be both painful and uncomfortable. Lube is also important because, unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating and needs little assistance.

To start with and to help you decide on the perfect product, a good description of each type of lube is important.

Water-based lube is often preferred because it is easily absorbed, isn't messy or untidy, and easy to clean off clothing or bedsheets. The only challenge with water-based lube is that because it absorbs so quickly, you'll likely have to reapply it at least once more during the sex act.

For this reason alone, many people who enjoy anal massages and anal sex choose a silicone-based lube instead.

Silicone-based lube is thicker than water-based lube and has a gel-like consistency. It doesn't absorb as quickly as water-based; therefore, you don't have to reapply it as often.

However, because of its thickness, it is sometimes very difficult to clean off of bedsheets or pajamas. The remedy for this is simply to use towels whenever you can, so that the lube gets on the towels and not on anything else.

There are also oil-based and even hybrid lubes, which are not very popular with most couples.

Most couples use water- or silicone-based lube and find it works well. If you're using a butt plug or a sex toy for your anal massage, you'll have to read the manufacturer's instructions on the package and use the type of lube recommended for the product.

As long as you use plenty of lube, your anal massage should work out great. The type of lube you use is really up to you, as they all have pros and cons that you need to consider before you make your decision.

Fortunately, if you feel in any way uncomfortable with the first type of lube that you try, it is always easy to try another type until you find the one that is right for you.

Anal Massage Techniques

There are various techniques to enjoy an anal massage, including stroking and making circular motions around the anus. You can stroke up or down, make large or small circles around the anus, or gently rub the entire area initially, increasing the pressure until you get the desired sensation.

Remember, there are a lot of nerve endings around the anal area, so getting the stimulation you desire shouldn't be difficult.

You should also consider starting with a general massage that includes the buttocks, thighs, and even the lower back area before you get to the anus. This helps prepare the receiver psychologically and physically for any anal play you have planned.

Massage with a good firm touch without applying too much pressure, and once you get to the anal area, start with a light massage and work up to a firmer one.

Again, you can choose to massage just the exterior of the butthole or insert a finger into the anus, but either way, you and your partner can decide on the right type and number of strokes or massages you want.

At any time during the massage, if you feel extreme pain – especially if the pain is sharp – you should stop what you're doing because this usually means that something has gone wrong.

To make the anal massage more comfortable for you and your partner, you can use gloves or fingertip coverings, called finger cots, for all your anal adventures. If you choose to give your partner an anal massage using a butt plug or even a sex toy, make sure you start with your finger first and work up to bigger items so that the massage is not painful or uncomfortable.

Both partners should also be able to communicate with each other throughout the sex act because this is the best way to make sure that everything going on is acceptable to both of you.

An anal massage should always start slow and work up to more intense pressure; your techniques can be any type you like. If you continue with this type of activity, it will not be long before you and your partner will be making up your own techniques for anal massage and sex.

Is an Anal Massage Safe?

If you following all precautions, anal massages and sex are very safe. However, there are a few things to remember before participating in an anal massage.

For instance, you should remember to be very careful when going from anal to vaginal stimulation. It is easy for the semen to get into the vaginal area this way, meaning you must be concerned about pregnancy.

Second, you have to prepare physically and emotionally for an anal massage, which means not going very fast or you might suffer from tears in the anal area.

Some products can help you if this is your first time for any anal activity, including sprays that help relax the nerves so that the massage or other sex play is a lot more comfortable.

The receiver of an anal massage has to be prepared for the activity, and fortunately, the giver has a lot of tools at their disposal that can help make this act a lot easier to do. If you do it right, anal massages and anal sex aren't uncomfortable or painful, and they are just as safe as any other type of sexual activity.

Of course, massaging the butt requires the use of lube  a lot of it  not just for comfort but also to protect the sensitive anal muscles from becoming overworked or irritated because of the activity.

If you are too rough with anal play or dive into it without proper preparation, you can damage the anal area in more ways than one. If you are gentle and start slow, you should have no problems keeping your anal sexual activities in the bedroom safe and fun.

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