8 Butt Plugs That Will Level-up Your BDSM Play

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When you think of BDSM, your mind probably jumps to whips, chains and ropes. Intimidating looking sex toys to provide pain and pleasure in equal measure. Where could a butt plug possibly fit into this kind of hardcore play?

Surprisingly, these simple toys can play a role in all kinds of BDSM play. In this page we’ll go over eight of our favorites, and how you can incorporate them into your hardcore sessions.

What is BDSM?

Before we talk about the plugs, let's briefly go over BDSM itself. The acronym stands for “Bondage”, “Dominance and Submission” and “Sadism and Masochism”. These days though, it’s generally used as a catch-all term to cover most kinds of sexual play that strays into hardcore topics and themes. These can include roleplay, petplay, electrostimulation, or even forms of torture.

A key tenet of BDSM play is making sure that it’s safe, sane and consensual (SSC). If you take part in BDSM play, always follow this creed, and make sure to establish a safe word before the play begins.

Petplay Anal Tails

While they still fall into the relatively tame category, tail plugs can add to your BDSM scenes in a couple of interesting ways.

The most obvious is petplay. This is a form of roleplay where one partner takes on the role of a pet or animal, and the other is the owner or handler. As you’d expect, wearing a tail plug makes it look like you have a tail which can help a lot with getting into the role of the animal, and provides a firm distinction between “in character” and “out of character”.

Another way to use these toys is tickle torture. This is exactly what it sounds like: tickling someone until they can’t take it any more. The tails attached to these plugs are soft and fluffy and work as a great alternative to a feather duster.

Black tail butt plug

Diamonds, Jewels, And Cute Princess Plugs

Similarly, jeweled/princess plugs are another relatively tame toy that can enhance your more hardcore play.

Most of the time, these toys will be included in a form of dominance and submission play, with the person wearing the jewels being a Princess, and being waited on hand and foot by their submissive partner. At the extreme end of this play is DDLG (Daddy Dom, Little Girl), where the man takes on the role of the dominant father figure, and the woman plays the role of the “little princess” being bought all manner of cute things as gifts (including jeweled plugs).

While this kind of play may sound quite creepy, people who take part make a huge effort to do it in a tasteful and respectful way. The “little girl” role is given lots of love and affection, and treated as the most important person in the relationship. This also provides a safe environment for people to explore more childlike feelings and emotions.

Another way to use jeweled plugs is during humiliation play. As a cute looking toy, many masculine men will shy away from them as they’re “too girly” or “soft”. Being forced to wear one by your partner can be a way to assert dominance, stripping away some of his masculinity and humiliating him in the process.

Expanding / Large Inflatable Anal Toys

Many BDSM scenes will involve pushing various types of play to the most extreme forms that a person can tolerate, be that extremely rough sex, a lot of pain, or humiliating someone as much as possible.

Inflatable plugs are a natural fit for this kind of play, pushing your anus to its limits of how much it can accept. While most people will only use a fraction of the inflation capacity, truly dedicated users can try and stretch as far as possible. This could be a form of pain play, a way to provide a pleasure overload, or a way to explore anal gaping.

Expanding plugs are a little less common in the hardcore scene, although some models exist that allow you to lock the plug in place after opening the petals. This means that the person wearing the plug is at the mercy of the one with the keys, much the same as a chastity cage for a man’s penis. Handing over control of your butt in this way is a great way of exploring submission play.

Anal hook and butt plug

Huge Sizes

As you’d expect, huge butt plugs are the biggest of the biggest. The plugs you look at and wonder how anyone could possibly fit it inside their body. Pushing these limits can be a form of sadism and masochism, or an attempt to overload someone with pleasure.

For some there’s also a voyeuristic aspect to these kinds of toys. There’s plenty of videos online of people inserting giant toys into various parts of their body, and for some it’s a massive turn on. Others quite simply watch because they can’t believe what they’re seeing, but either way, this can definitely play a role in a BDSM fetish or scene.

Men’s Prostate Massagers / Male Prostate Toys

The prostate gland is a part of the body exclusive to men, and we cover it in much more detail in some of our other blogs. To put it simply though, it’s in your butt, it’s kind of awkward to reach, and stimulating it can feel good.

Prostate stimulators are a special kind of butt plug that have a slight curve to more easily reach the gland. For BDSM play, prostate stimulation can be used in a lot of different ways.

If you enjoy exploring submission and humiliation, then stimulating a man’s prostate until he orgasms without giving him any penile stimulation can be a lot of fun. Instead of a full ejaculation, he’ll usually just have a steady dribble of pre-cum from his penis. The dominant partner can easily use this during verbal humiliation with phrases like “you can’t even cum properly”.

For some men, even the simple act of being anally penetrated is enough to feel humiliated, so simply using one of these toys can start your play off. Others find prostate stimulation incredibly intense, so using a vibrating massager can push them over the limits of what they can handle and have them begging for you to stop.

These toys can even play a role during bondage sessions. Tying a prostate massager into the ropes can leave a man with the choice between a more comfortable position but extra pressure on his prostate, or less pressure but less comfort. This kind of bondage is called predicament bondage.

Hands tied in bondage

Rimming / Thrusting Plugs

Both rimming plugs and thrusting plugs are similar toys, but they deliver pleasure in slightly different ways. Thrusting plugs are simpler, moving backwards and forwards once inserted to imitate penetrative anal sex. Rimming plugs contain small balls or beads, which rotate around the surface of the plug to provide stimulation.

Incorporating these toys into BDSM play will usually involve extreme stimulation, forcing someone to wear them and leaving them in until they can’t take any more. This can be combined with bondage so there’s no way of them removing the toy themselves, and will have to beg for you to take it out.

Pushing someone to this extreme can often be quite humiliating, fulfilling another common fetish for BDSM fans.

Electric Plugs / Electrostimulation Anal Toys

Electrostimulation is often viewed as one of the most hardcore activities you can explore during BDSM play. Electric plugs (like other e-stim toys) make use of small shocks to provide additional stimulation while wearing your toy.

On the lower settings, these toys aren’t much different than vibrating or thrusting toys, simply providing something extra to add more pleasure and help you orgasm easier. A lot of people who’ve tried them say that it’s more like a tingling sensation than a shock.

During a BDSM scene though, these toys will frequently be turned up to much higher settings or even maxed out. This turns the gentle tingling into a painful jolt, which can be applied at any time by the person holding the controls.

Estim plugs can be incorporated into almost any kind of BDSM play. During bondage, the person tied up can be left at the mercy of the shocks. If you enjoy dominance and submission, then the dominant partner can take control of the shocks while the submissive partner wears the toy. If you behave, you might get pleasurable low power shocks, but misbehave and they can turn up the intensity to punish you. For sadists and masochists, these toys are the perfect way to explore pain play.

An estim toy is a great addition to any BDSM toolbox.

Jewel butt plugs and a peach

Hollow / Tunnel For Gape Play

One of the less common toys that you can try are hollow plugs (sometimes called tunnel plugs). These are just like regular butt plugs, but have a hollow core.

While they don’t slot as neatly into specific kinds of BDSM play, these toys allow you to see inside the anus while being worn. For those who find anal gaping attractive they are a natural fit. You can also combine these with other sex toys such as a vibrator, or even have sex though the center of larger models, amplifying the anal pleasure or stretch that the person wearing one feels.

Exposing the inside of your butt to someone else can be quite submissive, as you’re exposing a very private part of your body (the inside), so couples who enjoy power play may like these toys too. This kind of exposure can also feel humiliating to some, so they may also fit into that kind of play.

Hollow/tunnel plugs are a lot less clear cut, so we’d recommend trying them out in different scenes to see if they work well for you.

Amplify Your Scenes Now

Each of the toys discussed in this page are available now in the Loveplugs collection. If you’ve been looking for something to spice up your BDSM play, then shop now and start enjoying the darker side of butt plugs today!

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